It occurred to me that I have not included many details of what is going on with R and B and their future with us. We met the new social this week. Her exact words were, "We are looking at 18mo.-2 years. This is going to be a long journey we walk together." What does that mean? R and B will be with us for a long time... with a possibility of forever. But before we jump in and get our hearts set on forever we have a long journey ahead of us. And they are always searching for family who will take them too. So at any point along this journey they could find a long lost estranged Aunt and, if she is willing and able, custody would go to her.
For now we love them as much as possible. We give them as much stability as we can. We are working on building trust and attachments. We are trying to give them a foundation that they can build their emotional, social, intellectual and physical futures on.
When we first got them their stress level was so high it is called Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. Over this month I have seen them calm down, smile more, laugh hysterically, and learn to communicate, hug, and cuddle. Love is slowly tempering the explosive anger. And trust is seeping in to calm the fear. They are far from "fixed". Many mountains still to climb. But it is really encouraging and rewarding to see such progress in the first month.
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